I offer both online counselling and face to face counselling at my practices in Salisbury, Farnham and Andover.
A very warm welcome to you and thank you for accessing my website. Life can throw up many challenges and I am able to offer a supportive environment for adults, and young people, to talk through and make sense of what they are finding difficult. Sometimes, if the words are just not there, we can use creative tools to process what is happening.
I hope that I will be able to offer you the support that you need at this time.
For more about me, visit my 'About Me' page.
My approach is holistic, meaning that I like to focus on you as a whole person: mind, body and soul. Together we might think about how your current concern is affecting you in these three areas and how that affects your view of yourself, or how your concern affects your relationships with those people in your life. You might want to explore how experiences from your past influence the decisions and actions you take now, and together we can work on whether you'd like to change any of those automatic responses. My particular areas of interest are:
Attachment related issues
Adoption and fostering issues
Sexuality and gender issues
Low Self Esteem
Bereavement and loss
The question guaranteed to make anyone's mind go blank!
Perhaps have a think about what you want to get out of each session on your drive to your therapy session. Some people have found that a good time to process what is happening for them and to sift through what feels like downloading an entire week and what's really bothersome content that could do with the focus of you and your therapist in session.
Remember the goals you had when you started going to therapy? They can help you focus on what you want to get out of each session too - if you ask yourself "Is what I want to/ plan to talk about today related to my overall goal that I started therapy with?" If the answer to this question is "Yes!", then you're probably on the right track.
Journaling and list making are some very productive ways of helping you to process the themes that show up in your life in various ways...
Perhaps it started with you noticing your partner not listening to you, but if you were to keep a list of all the arenas where you are not listened to, you might surprise yourself. What if you could take what you discovered with you to therapy? Between you and your therapist, you might be able to identify relevant themes or work out the meaning of being listened to/not listened to in your life.
Lists help us to process lots of data (or in this case the events of your life) in a "one thing at a time" way. This helps with our sense of control. The items on the list, over time, become so obvious that we know them so well. This is helpful when trying to break bad habits - in the example I used above you might start to notice all the ways in which you accept being not listened to - and between you and your therapist you might identify ways in which you could address those habits.
My challenge to you is to keep a list of the things you think of during the week that you might want to talk about in therapy, and take it with you to your next session.
Counselling can be difficult, bringing up a lot of upsetting feelings, which is why it is so important to be patient, show yourself compassion, and give yourself some time to recover if things are getting difficult.
Don’t schedule a session immediately before or after a big work or school event that may leave you feeling stressed and not in the best emotional state.
Do try to give yourself (or your child if they are the ones in therapy) time afterwards to put yourself back together again – a walk or a cup of tea and some time to write yourself a few notes or just reflect on the session can do wonders for you.
Who do I work with?
I work with both adults and young people on an individual basis, with the aim of enabling you to enhance your life and to live it more fully.
Students from schools and colleges in Andover, Farnham and Salisbury have said that they prefer coming to me privately so that they don't have to face intrusive curiosity from peers. Similarly, clients from the Armed Forces and emergency services have also said they prefer to access therapy away from the work arena.
What are the next steps?
If you have decided that I might be the counsellor for you, then either email or call me and we can book an assessment appointment where we can decide together if I am the right therapist for your current concerns.
Your privacy is important to me. When providing me with your contact details, please ensure that the details you provide are ones you're happy to allow me to leave messages on.
Location and Parking
I have been a practising counsellor for the past 15 years, both in England and abroad.
My practice in Andover is within easy reach of Newbury, Romsey, Stockbridge, Whitchurch and Winchester. There is on street parking available and my practice room is a peaceful cabin.
My practice in central Farnham is on a bus route, and parking at Central Car Park is a two minute walk away.
My practice in central Salisbury is also on a bus route and within minutes of the train station. On street parking is available
My Practice Rooms
"K has found her sessions with you very helpful. She is doing brilliantly at the moment, thank you for all you've done for her"
Father of KH (17)
"Just wanted to say thank you for all your help with E, it is great that she is feeling confident to go it on her own. I hope you don't mind if we contact you again if she feels she needs a little more help in the future? Thanks again"
Mother of EG (16)
"It 's been a hell of a battle and journey and I'm certainly not the same person I was at the start, but there is a happy ending. Thank you!"
"It was hard coming here every week to talk about myself, but at least I am not so shy about talking up in class and I don't think constantly about how fat and ugly I am or about what to restrict in my eating next and how to hide it from my parents"
"Thank you for helping get our son back into school, we didn't know how he was going to regain his confidence and you've started the ball rolling for his journey forward."
Parents of AR (12)
"Mandy came strongly recommended to me by two of her clients. I had had previous counselling but Mandy's warmth and empathy were the characteristics that really helped me to increase my self-awareness and acceptance.
I felt fully supported and my anxiety has reduced hugely, as well as now having the tools to manage it independently. I am extremely grateful. My life is better as a result of our work together."
“Knowing that my life needed to change and realising that counselling might be my best course of action seemed very unnatural. An overwhelming sense of weakness took over my whole life, something that I’d previously reserved for ‘other people’ - not me.
I never imagined I would ever be in a position to even joke about needing counselling, let alone find myself tentatively searching on-line to find someone who might be able to help me. Meeting Mandy has been one of my greatest personal achievements in my life, and it’s an achievement because I never thought I could do it! It’s also been the most important and beneficial thing I could have done for myself. As soon as I met Mandy I began to realise I’d made the right decision, the sense of relief was enormous. Mandy’s approach and dedication to me was amazing. Each week I’d leave with a greater understanding of my situation and surroundings which was truly uplifting and satisfying. I will strongly recommend counselling to anyone who ever mentions that they may be considering it, and more specifically Mandy. Her kind nature and open-minded approach have truly helped me re-build and re-interpret my life. I really don’t know what would have happened if we hadn't met.”
"Counselling with Mandy has quite literally changed my life. Mandy is warm and empathic. When I talk to her I know she really understands me. She accepts me just as I am and has helped me at accept myself too.
In working with her I have increased in confidence and self-worth. I understand myself better, and mange my relationships better. I am less anxious and no longer have such a need to be in control of everything – after a lifetime of being a ‘control freak’ I can let go and still feel safe. I can be wrong or angry and still feel okay. My friends and family comment on how much happier I am. At first I was nervous about starting counselling, but it is possibly the most worthwhile thing I have ever done.
Thank you Mandy, I wouldn't be where I am now without you."
"There is so much I want to say. Through my journey with Mandy I have realised a lot about myself and learnt some important life skills too... That my emotions are real to me and it's ok, and necessary to show them and that I need to show those close to me how I feel in order for them to help me.
I had been dealing with the devastating loss of my unborn baby. This painful loss closely followed the death of my wonderful father In law. I was left feeling angry with the whole world. Angry that no one understood, that no one could help me and that no one else was going through this instead of me. I came to a point where I knew the only healthy thing to do was to get some help. I have never admitted to needing help for anything in my life so this was a very scary thing for me. From my very first meeting with Mandy, she showed an empathy that I didn't expect. She made me feel very relaxed and safe which enabled me to open up more and feel comfortable to do so. Mandy asked questions, gave me time to digest and supported me to find the answers myself. I was given the confidence to trust my instincts and own capabilities to get through this difficult time. We both came to the decision after 12 weeks that I was at a better place and therefore stopped the sessions, but I know I can meet with Mandy should things become difficult again in the future. The sessions I had were absolutely invaluable to me. I needed some support and that's exactly what I got, for all aspects of my life. I've managed to find my old self again and feel strong enough to deal with things away from counselling. I really can't thank Mandy enough."
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